I also want to address the subject of labels. I believe this simple truth: call people what they want to be called. To refuse to do so is to marginalize that person, render them invisible. You want to be called by your name, right? I can't just pick another name at random and start calling you that instead, because it makes ME more comfortable. Please provide me the same courtesy. I want to link to a short pithy article that I think is well worth the read. This is a great overview for those struggling with what it means to be an 'ally.' Pay particular attention to numbers 2 and 4.
I have no intension of being argumentative. My energy will not be used that way. This is hard work and each one of us has our own burden to shoulder. I want to engage and discuss, but I will not defend or debate. Please do not make it my job to validate you. Thank you to the true allies out there who truly have my back and have worked hard to support the difficult work I do. You are true treasures and I am better for your conscious awareness and redemptive action.